Duality and Nourishment

Every day we are faced with a number of choices to make--up to 35,000, in fact. There are often several options to choose from--but at the very least, a decision presents us with two distinct paths. This is the nature of duality, defined as "an instance of opposition or contrast between two concepts or aspects." During these uncertain times, many of us live in a space of constant duality as we face choice points, from small (should I do the dishes now or later?) to larger life altering ones (should I change career paths?).

Presented with so many choices, it makes sense to feel paralyzed or believe it's "easier" to stay in a place of familiarity rather than make a change. Living in a world of duality can create conflict and dissonance--not only between yourself and another, but between the different parts of yourself. These dueling forces can cause physical tension in our bodies--that twisted-up feeling in our chests or bellies.

I have been hearing from the community that they experience seemingly opposing pulls at the same time--a deep desire to socially connect and an equal draw to isolate and stay in the same place.

I invite you to sit with this tension, instead of rectifying it immediately. Sometimes we feel the need to pick a side in order to reduce the anxiety we feel about living in the grey. Instead, you might interpret this tension as an invitation to wander inside of yourself and simply ask: "what is happening for me?"

Instead of focusing on the polarization, allow all of the conflicting options to exist at the same time. All the different parts are allowed to take the spotlight on the proverbial stage. This understanding actually leads to the release of the tension and makes space for clarity to come.

Take a moment to slowly release the pressure to decide. Remember that you can experiment or stay the same. Have the sense that there are endless opportunities to pivot and change your mind.

"I have put duality away. I have seen the two worlds are one."
-Rumi